Tuesday, 11 June 2013

Little listeners

                                         Reaching the stage where everything goes in!!

It is a great skill to teach good listening skills. But we are now getting to the point where our little one is a bit too switched on and observant! Not only is she copying the actions she sees adults and her peers do, but she has super hearing, meaning we are now really having to think about what we say, when we say it and how we say it too!!

We often get very concerned about when our children do not listen to us, but it is also very important to be aware of just what our children ARE listening to! This is something which I have been looking into and from what I can see, there are huge debates online about whether or not children should be included or present when adults are conversing.

I do agree that there are strong arguments on both sides. It is a good idea for children to be involved in some adult conversations, especially as they begin to learn the rules of conversation and how to use body language as well as speaking to get their points across. But, it does depend on the subject matter. It is not so good to be talking about murder, to be swearing or talking about sexual topics with young children in earshot. One point which came across from a fellow parent when discussing this matter is that the television news programmes showed a lot of very graphic pictures of the recent attack on a soldier in London, meaning children were aware of what was going on which perhaps they shouldn't have.

The whole egging incident on the Britain's got talent effected my daughter. She heard us talking about it and then saw it as it was played on the television. She immediately started pretending to throw things at people, which we have always taught her not to do. It is a mixture here of television and the subject I want to discuss, so I shall get back to the adult conversation topic....

The most important thing I think is to realise although you cannot shield your child from everything they hear, they should be taught what is a good/bad thing to say and parents should try and keep them from hearing things which can really upset them. It happens a lot of children in break up situations between their parents. The parents say things about the other person, playing them off on one another leaving the child confused and not knowing what is going on. I have recently been asking my friends who visit to save any adult catch up conversation until our daughter is in bed or not in earshot, just to make sure she isn't hearing anything which may concern her. But, as I said before, you cannot shield them from hearing things they shouldn't, especially where they are interacting with other children or hearing people talking on the bus etc.

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